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Are you affected by celebrity death?

Discussion in 'The Lounge' started by Sarah, May 26, 2012.



Poll closed Sep 3, 2012.
  1. Michael Jackson

  2. Whitney Houston

  3. Amy Winehouse

    0 vote(s)
  4. Elvis Presley

  5. Diana, Princess of Wales

  6. JFK

  7. Kurt Cobain

    0 vote(s)
  8. Grace Kelly

    0 vote(s)
  9. Steve Irwin

  10. Star of Dallas or other show - please specify who

Multiple votes are allowed.
  1. J. R.'s Piece

    J. R.'s Piece Well-Known Member

    I've chatted with Lis Sladen and met her husband, Brian Miller.
  2. Karin Schill

    Karin Schill Moderator Staff Member

    This is an interesting topic Sarah. I agree with Swami, it really depends on who it is who dies. Some celebrity deaths doesn't really affect me at all since I might not even know who they were before they died while others affect me a lot.

    In the poll I voted for Michael Jackson, Whitney Houston, Princess Diana and star of Dallas. I like Elvis Presley and Grace Kelly too, but I didn't vote for them since Elvis died before I was born and Grace Kelly died when I was 2 so as far as I remember they have always been dead and therefore their death didn't affect me.

    Out of the ones listed the person's who's death hit me the hardest was Princess Diana. Probably because it was the first time a celebrity death affected me. It was the 31st of august 1997 and I was 17. I remember it like it was yesterday. My mom was on the phone with my grandma when she exclaimed something like "Who died?" and that made me turn cold. I thought it was someone I knew who had died. But then when mom went on talking I figured it was some distant relative that I didn't know too well since mom wasn't upset by the news. However just to make sure I went and asked her "Who died?"
    I was totally unprepared for the answer when mom said. "Princess Diana". It was a complete shock. I think my first words were "Poor William and Harry. Poor Diana..." then I burst into tears. My 14 year old sister comforted me as she cried with me. I grieved for princess Diana for months. I cried when I watched her funeral. I felt so sorry for her sons who were not much younger than I was. I even wrote a song for Princess Diana called "Queen of Hearts". I think a reason her death hit me so hard was because she was my idol. I had followed her life since I was 12. Ironically I never thought of her as an idol before she died. But that's what she was. She was someone who represented love. Someone who gave to the world. I admired her so much, I still do.

    Then fast forward to 2004 and 2005 when Howard Keel and Barbara Bel Geddes died. Their death saddened me a great deal. I remember Howard's death happened around the same time as Return to Southfork was broadcast. It made it a sad occasion. Barbara's death hit me harder. It was in august 2005 and I was sitting by my computer when I heard. I was trying to write on a story. I had writer's block, the news of her death brought tears to my eyes and then my writer's block lifted. I wrote and let my emotions out in the text and it got intense. Howard and Barbara's death made me more aware of that my own grandparents wouldn't be around forever. They were about the same age as them. About 6 months later my paternal grandma died...

    Now fast forward to June 2009. I had gone to Finland to visit a friend. I woke up by my phone I received a text message at approx. 4.30 in the morning. It was a message from one of my best friends who lives in the US. It said "OMG MIchael Jackson died". I was in shock. I didn't understand how that could have happened. 'Had there been an accident, how was his kids. where they ok?' I was in denial. Was it really true. Was it a fake rumor. I couldn't check up online. I couldn't cry. I couldn't sleep. I read a bit and then I slept. The next day I read all I could find about MJ on the net, I listened ot his songs on youtube and watched videos. I was annoyed I hadn't brought my "King of Pop" CD since I wanted to listen to his music. I was even more annoyed that my friends didn't seem to care that he was gone. It was huge. I wasn't exactly a fan but he had been a huge part of my growing up. I had memories tied to his music and he had touched my life as far back as 1985 when my choir made a cassette recording and sold to raise funds for the starving children in Africa all because MJ and a bunch of other celebrities had made "We are the world"...
    I remember learning to do the moon walk as a kid/teen. I remember watching some of his videos on MTV. I remember how all my friends loved him when we were in middle school and played his music all the time at the middle school discos. It annoyed me then as my favorite singer was Carola and I rather wanted to hear her songs. Then somewhere in my teens I began liking his music too...
    I cried when his daughter spoke at the funeral. I watched it all live. I began reading books about him and listen exclusively to his music for months. I guess that was my way of grieving, I suppose I became a fan somewhere along the way. Maybe I had been earlier on too without realizing it...I think Michael's death for me meant acknowlediging that the legends/icons from my childhood was starting to die off, which in one way meant acknowledging that the world is changing and that I am getting older. I am not a kid anymore. I'm a grown up. Still it was a shock since I had really expected MJ to be around for another 20 years at least. I am sad I never got a chance to see him in concert. I wanted to. I didn't realize it until when "This is it" tour was announced in march 2009 though. I told my dad that if MJ was coming to Sweden again I would go see his concert. But sadly that never happened...

    Then now let's go to I think February 2012. When Whitney Houston died. Again I got a text message from my best friend in the US. It said. "OMG! Whitney Houston..." I got a sense of deja vu from when MJ died and I just knew the last word was gonna say "Died" without even reading it. When I opened it, it said it. I had loved Whitney's music since 1993 when we were all playing "I will always love you" every break at middle school. I was in the 6th grade then. I had most of her CDs. I fell asleep that night listening to her last album and found myself crying. I listened to her music constantly for a couple of weeks. I watched the funeral live and I cried when they carried out her coffin and played "I will always love you". It was sad. Really sad. Another legend/icon from my childhood gone too soon...

    Then finally I'd like to add another celebrity death to the list. She wasn't in the poll but her death affected me a lot. It was march 23rd 2011 and I was at work when I suddenly got a text message from a friend it said something like "I'm sorry about the passing of a brilliant star". I grew cold. Without asking I knew who she meant. I later got it confirmed by a co-worker. Elizabeth Taylor was gone. She was old and she lived a full life. Yet her death still made me sad and I grieved for her. Since she was my idol, a woman I admired and respected and loved. I watched one of her movies that night "National Velvet" and I cried. There was never any public closure as her funeral and memorial service was not open to the public. It seems sort of ironic how a woman who lived her whole life in the spotlight never got a public farewell. Yet I guess it proves what a private person she really was. I grieved in my own way by making a tribute episode of Neon. I also donated a little money to her AIDS foundation and travelled. I visited places that had been important in her life, like Hampstead in London where she had been born. I saw her jewellrys in Geneva and visited Celigny where Richard Burton was buried. For some reason I found a sense of closure placing a flower on his grave. I never met him or Elizabeth Taylor. But I had followed Elizabeth's life since I was 12. It felt like the last legend/star/icon from my childhood was gone...

    Finally thank you for reading all my recollections. I know it's a lot but I felt like sharing.

    I think the bottom line here is that yes celebrity death can affect me. But only if the person who dies is someone I am a fan of, or someone I at least like or have memories tied to.
  3. alexis

    alexis Well-Known Member

    What a great thread Sarah! I have to say that yes I am affected when a famous person dies. Though it depends on who it is. I was very sad when Whitney and Micheal Jackson died. I have always been a fan of both their music. But both had a troubled few years and their music had not really progressed or gotten better in my opinion. I was a fan of their older music and I was never a complete crazy fan like I am about some people. I was sad at their passing but not deeply upset. There have been a few that I was more upset about, Britney Murphy was one. It was around christmas when she died, I was at a party when I heard and it affected me because she was somebody close to my age. She just seemed to be connected to my life in some weird way. Good times with friends while watching her movies growing up. Then she had that club song "Faster kill Faster" Which was always played in my partying days. She was a party girl and funny and I liked her. I always thought wow... Too soon!

    Diana also. I was facinated by her growing up, her clothes, her beauty, the jewels. Beautiful fairytail princess. Dancing with John Travolta, friends with Elton John. Always in the news, always a detailed description of who designed her clothes. Charity work for aids, landmines. The breakdown of her marriage. I remember seeing her at the Taj Mahal alone and how sad she looked and the fuss that was made. She was always there from I was a baby and she was talked about daily it seemed. I was on holiday in Donegal when I woke up to the news of her death. It was the last day and we were driving back home. It was the longest weirdest and most silent drive I have ever taken.
    I will always remember watching her funeral, which I did alone. Diana weirdly affected me.

    I worry about how I will react and feel when the people I am obsessive crazy fan girl over die. Cher... Celine... Madonna... Kylie... Joan Collins! I think there may be some serious sadness there.

    Aswell as that, I often feel really annoyed about famous people who have been dead long before I was born or died when I was a baby. I get sad when I hear Dusty Springfield and Karen Carpenter, sometimes feeling like missing a relative! Weird I know but I do. And actresses and actors from old Hollywood, Lana Turner, Vivien Leigh, Bette, Joan, Clark Gable, Rock Hudson, Grace Kelly, Montgomery Clift, Elizabeth Taylor, Katherine Hepburn, Audrey Hepburn. These people have managed to find their way into my life and make me interested or facinated or attached to them in some way. So that I watch their films and read books about them. Even though I'm a 28 year old. And I miss them!!!

    Maybe I'm not of this time. :)
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  4. J. R.'s Piece

    J. R.'s Piece Well-Known Member

    Ever watched her films?
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  5. PT Freakin' G

    PT Freakin' G Well-Known Member

    I'll be genuinely sad and upset when Britney Spears passes. I've been listening to her music since 3rd grade, for 14 years, all of my most formative years. I feel like I've grown up with her as a sort of older sister figure.
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  6. J. R.'s Piece

    J. R.'s Piece Well-Known Member

    Ah well! That's life. If you see what I mean...

    How can you be sure that she will predecease you?

    Waitaminute... the Queen Mother's death got a lot of publicity....
  7. Emmerdalefan

    Emmerdalefan Well-Known Member

    Some people have said that when their fave celeb has died, ie Elvis or Michael Jackson that it has affected them as much as losing a loved one.
  8. alexis

    alexis Well-Known Member

    Thats how I feel about certain singers, the ones I mentioned. All of the happiest times in my life can be some way linked to them. They were the sound track to it all. When life was really shit they made it better for a while. I suppose even after death they can still do that. But I will feel like i'm losing a friend.
  9. J. R.'s Piece

    J. R.'s Piece Well-Known Member

    I was particularly saddened when Humphrey Lyttelton died in 2008. I actually met him a few times.
  10. Olivia Benson

    Olivia Benson Well-Known Member

    Yeah. Mr. and Mrs. Smith was hilarious. Carole and Lucille Ball were good friends and I wondered what an early '40's comedy or B-movie with the two of them would've been like. I really enjoy Lucy's pre-TV work.
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  11. ihtgb

    ihtgb New Member

  12. J. R.'s Piece

    J. R.'s Piece Well-Known Member

    Erm...it has affected you enough to post threads about their deaths eventually. When you broke the news about Elisabeth Sladen's death, nearly one month after the news broke about her death, Stimpy asked you, "why do you want to post about death every day anyways? ", your response was:

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    I know he's not really popular around here but Kurt Cobain was a true rock star in every sense of the word. He just wanted his music heard but hated the fame that came with it. He had life long depression, and that pain that you feel is very real. He could've had anything, but nothing ever brought him peace. Even though I was too young to remember his death, his music will live on forever.
  14. J. R.'s Piece

    J. R.'s Piece Well-Known Member

    By your own admission, celebrity death keeps you occupied!
  15. ihtgb

    ihtgb New Member

    Yes, you just totally destroyed your own poorly thought out argument within a span of two sentences.

    I was spreading news because I was bored as balls...that doesn't mean it affected me in anyway, emotionally or otherwise. I'd never even heard of half the people I was posting about.

    I win. You lose. I'm awesome.
  16. J. R.'s Piece

    J. R.'s Piece Well-Known Member

    No. I never said that it affected you in an emotional way. Fact is that you act on it. It influences you. You create threads. It makes a difference. Whether or not you have heard about them doesn't have to enter into it.
  17. vaughnleland

    vaughnleland Well-Known Member

    I was deeply effected by a few..

    Sir Rex Harrison.. watching this man work in his films and seeing him once stage once really made me want to be an actor. I was 21 when he died and skipped classes to go to him NYC memorial service.

    Raul Julia..died far too young.

    The Redgrave clan.. 3 gone in a year..Corin,Lynn and niece Natasha.

    Barbara BelGeddes...I considered her one of the great stage and television actreses of our time.

    Howard Keel- another Dallas star and a favorite of mine in the MGM musical. a true triple threat.

    Frank Sinatra ...I still get teary listnein to my Way.

    Katherine Hepburn..I really admired her as a person and an actres..wanted her to reach 100 years so badly.

    Sir john Gielgud..a whole tradition of theatre died with him. he was the last link between the edwardian theatre and the modern stage.
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  18. RedBeetEggs

    RedBeetEggs Well-Known Member

    See, that's what people say about herpes and look how that turns out.
  19. J. R.'s Piece

    J. R.'s Piece Well-Known Member


    af·fect 1 (-fkt)
    tr.v. af·fect·ed, af·fect·ing, af·fects
    1. To have an influence on or effect a change in
    2. To act on the emotions of; touch or move.
    3. To attack or infect, as a disease
  20. Emmerdalefan

    Emmerdalefan Well-Known Member

    Seems you thrive on posting threads about people dying. Death is not something to thrive over.

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