Let’s take a look at what happened in Bobby and Pam’s marriage during the contest for control of Ewing Oil. Pam left Bobby because she claimed he had changed. During the contest, Bobby did change in the way he did business. He became the harder, more aggressive man he had to become in order to not just survive, but flourish in a cutthroat business and to win control of Ewing Oil. Do you blame Bobby for becoming what the conditions at that time necessitated he had to be in his professional life? Was it reasonable for Pam to blame him for that? Bobby’s adaptation to the conditions in his professional life had never impacted the way he treated Pam or Christopher. He always treated them extremely well. When he was with them he was still just as good a husband and father as he’d been before. Bobby had to work very long hours during the contest, so he didn’t have as much time at home with Pam and Christopher, but when he was with them, how did Bobby treat Pam or Christopher any less well than he’d always treated them? Bobby said words to the effect of: There is no new Bobby. I’m the same man I’ve always been. I’ve never been a saint. I’ve never wanted to be one! It was disappointing to see that Pam didn’t show more loyalty to Bobby during a time in his life when he needed a supportive, loyal wife. Pam excused her refusal to be supportive of Bobby at that time by saying that money didn’t matter very much to her. Well how about what mattered to Bobby? She can’t be supportive of her husband going after a goal that was so important to him? How self-centered can you get? Whenever Pam was going after something important to her, Bobby had been right there for Pam. Now he’s going after something important to him and when he needs a supportive wife the most, she turns her back on him. Pam even blamed the contest for Rebecca’s death! Unreal. The terms of Jock’s will didn’t cause her mother’s death. The plan crashed because of pilot error. We don’t know if her pilot made the error or if the other pilot did. One or both of the pilots caused the crash, and Rebecca’s death. If Rebecca had been flying to New York to visit Katherine and the plane crashed, who would say Katherine is to blame for Rebecca’s death? Rebecca wasn’t flying to that refinery because it was something she wanted to buy. She was going there to deliberately interfere in JR’s deal with the refinery owner. Not because Cliff wanted to buy it instead, but just to try to ruin JR’s deal so he wouldn’t win the contest. It was so petty of her. It was none of her business. Somehow I just don’t see any situation where Miss Ellie would be flying somewhere to try to ruin one of Cliff’s deals just for the sake of hurting Cliff. Do you? Do you remember how supportive Bobby was to Pam when she was going through her “I want a baby” phase? What if he’d told her: “You’ve changed Pam. You’re no longer the Pamela I married. Children don’t mean a whole lot to me. I love you and I love my career. We don’t need children to be happy”! I’m going to go out on a limb and guess if Bobby had said that to Pam, people would say that Bobby was being a self-centered, uncaring, lousy husband. Why should the standards for what being a good husband or wife change when the situations are reversed? When Pam found out she couldn’t have children, she changed. Having a baby was all she thought about. She became cold and distant towards Bobby. He responded by being as supportive as he could be. Whatever might help Pam, Bobby did. Think of what Bobby did regarding Christopher. He was willing to go to the extreme of buying JR’s baby and then not turning the baby over to JR but giving it to Pam. Just because Pam wanted a baby that badly. He had every reason to believe Christopher was JR’s baby but he was perfectly willing to hide the baby’s identity from JR. Bobby told Pam he’d found them a baby to adopt. Bobby was willing for he and Pam to raise his brother’s baby as their own child and never tell his brother the truth. If Pam needed something to be happy, any behavior necessary to acquire it was justified. When Bobby needed something to feel fulfilled in his life, Pam expected him to act like a choirboy. Isn’t interesting how any level of duplicity, dishonesty in Bobby was acceptable to Pam as long as it was being done to achieve her desires and goals in life, but entirely unacceptable when it was being done to further Bobby’s achievement of his desires and goals in life?