That's not the point I'm making. I said: It's not about being passive or being assertive; it's about what is normal in "Dallas world." When Pam and JR are in the hayloft in "Barbecue" she tells JR that she and Bobby are going to move away Southfork. JR replies: "You can't do that; you'll break up the family"! Later in the episode, Jock says to Pam: "I don't want to lose another son." Those aren't property attachments; they're family attachments. In Dallas when a man gets punched by another man, there is never an arrest or a lawsuit. That isn't about being passive; it's just how things are in their world. It is that nobody would be so petty as to involve the law over something that minor. In "Dallas world" men are expected to handle something like that on their own. It's a higher level of self-reliance, of being able to handle one's own affairs.