Ever fallen in love, non-sexually?

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  1. Emelee

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    Have you ever fallen in love with a person who you don't want to have a sexual relationship with? Where you only fall in love with a personality or persona, someone you can't get enough of and want to be around all the time? Someone you have all the in love infatuation feelings for - except the sexual part? Maybe someone from the sex you are normally not drawn to?

    Just curious to know if this is common, or if I'm in a minority. o_O I have definitely been through this, more than once. Two women and one man, all 3 much older than I am.
     
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    I have. Sometimes you just appreciate the connection with the other person so much that you don't want to ruin it with sex. It's been a very long time since then.
     
  3. Willie Oleson

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    Yes, these feelings can exist without the sexual feelings. And vice versa, of course. But if such a relationship should develop then maybe the sexual feelings (or the need for physical intimacy) arise at a later time.
    And it's also possible to fall in love with a hot one-night stand. These things happen so unexpectedly, not to mention inconveniently.
     
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    ...or not at all. :D The two women I've "fallen in love with" has been with 0% sexual feelings involved. All other elements of falling in love have been present, but no sexual attraction ever arose along the way.
     
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    You didn't even want to kiss them?
     
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    No. Not at all. It was 100% platonic. All feelings of being in love except wanting to kiss or have sex.
     
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    Right there with you. I think taking things to the next level with the man I feel this way about would ruin the connection.
    I am selflessly content to hold these feelings for him pure and chaste from afar.
     
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    I fell for the person who sneaks me extra meat cuts at the delicatessen and they understandably have fallen for me.
     

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