Discussion in 'The Lounge' started by Snarky's Ghost, Jan 28, 2019.
My mother named me the executor of her will, and gave me an advanced copy. The only mention of my sister in her will is a sharp line about how she intentionally left my sister out, which will be...interesting. Hopefully my mother will re-think her decision in the near future, because I do NOT relish the idea of having to invite my sister to a will-reading where she'll only get insulted from beyond the grave. Play silly games, win silly prizes. I estimate they'll have another ten or fifteen years to patch things up, but neither are in any hurry.
All my knowledge about wills comes from soaps so I don't have much to offer on the subject. Although one thing I will say is, beware of codicils.
I was named as "c0-executor" of my grandmother's will. It really consisted only of signing papers with the solicitor doing all the actual work.
My sister and I were executors for our dad's will, everything was fairly straightforward, thankfully.
Time consuming and awkward.
As an aside, never totally judge a person until you have seen them in a situation involving money.
In so many ways. When I've been in situations where I proved to be non-mercenary (including giving good tip) I've had "friends" snap at me that I'm "just trying to make people like (me)".
Well, at least the readings/hearings wouldn't be dry and boring then. And you could always end it with a dramatic stare at the participants (aka freezeframe).
I think that's a great habbit and would only make me like you even more! Generosity just feels great.
When i go out for dinner or to the hairdresser or wherever (especially at businesses where i know that the people don't earn that much anyways), i always tend to give tips above the "usual", even when i don't have that much money at all.
But to see the hapiness in the receiver's face is priceless, the appreciation creates a great atmosphere and just makes my day, so it's kind of a win-win-situation!
My malignant narcissist half-sibling with traits found in the Cluster B personality disorder (plus additional psychopathic traits) spectrum is in for a few surprises as virtually everything major has been taken out of the will and placed in trusts, secret trusts and half-secret trusts that it and it's direct descendants (covert narcissists and flying monkeys) don't know about. Attending the funeral might be problematic, since one executor (me) went no contact with it and it's descendants (covert narcissists and flying monkeys, one of whom has tried to electrocute me). The other executor isn't speaking to it either. And one of the trustees (me) would never ever let it in my mother's house (a trust property which I do not officially own but am actually the legal owner of and beneficiary, bestowing me life rights of quiet enjoyment of the house and unfettered access to the swimming pool, no matter who is living there...I have swimming pool life rights built into all my home trusts). And I'm one of the two main beneficiaries of everything. And on my personal and entirely impartial advice, I recommended that their shares be severely slashed. And they were. There is also some behaviour clause in it, where the executors can reduce their shares further. There is only one mention of that half-sister in the will, to mention that that person gets a very tiny share. And it's offspring aren't mentioned by name at all. Whereas all the other direct descendants get at least two mentions for prizes. The executors were thinking of posting the will just before the funeral, to make sure that it won't attend. Or if it attends, the executors might not go.
Why do women always get the fabulous names (executrix)?
Rule of thumb: don't get "prorated bills" and "probated wills" mixed up. Very important.
...or prostate pills.
Separate names with a comma.