I sound like JR but here goes. This woman (friend of my mum's) has been in our lives for 16 years and at the start I thought she was normal. Now she shows up everywhere that we go, interferes with everything, is always the hero when it comes to helping and will turn on the waterworks in front of my family if she thinks I'm putting her in her place (ie simple things like politely telling her that it's family business and that I will handle it). So far whenever I've needed a place to live, a new car etc, instead of letting me do it myself, she miraculously turns up with the solution and if I say no, my mum thinks I'm being rude. So now I'm living in a house she found and driving a car that she found. When we go to visit relatives, they ask how SHE is, and I'm lucky if they even ask how I am. I find her manipulative, not at all a genuine person and I am so tired of it that it is making me ill. I feel like I'm not good enough and that no matter how hard I try that she is better and will come up with better ideas, solutions etc. There are absolutely no boundaries with her - she will walk in without annoucing she's coming in the middle of family meals, she sits with us at family funerals - as she is herself a minister, she is quite often asked to do the funerals and will cry her eyes out while performing the ceremony - and on more than one occasion she has kissed the coffin of a close friend or relative of mine that she doesn't even really know (meaning she's the last person to touch them). She has also made sure that all my mum's friends are now her friends and quite often will be invited to occasions of people that I have known my entire life, but I will be missed off the invite list. She has been nasty and rude to me out of my mum's earshot on more than one occasion, but if I raise it, I am criticised because she is, apparently, a saint. It is really damaging my self esteem. I feel like just telling them all to go and shove it. I don't find her behaviour at all normal or acceptable - can anyone else see what I mean? I'm just thoroughly done with the situation.