Discussion in 'Rant Room' started by Emelee, Sep 16, 2016.
I did it, but it was tastefully done.
Oh, hallelujah! Someone else agrees with me on this.
The offenders also usually walk at a glacial pace thereby compounding their rudeness.....
so what were you in? i now need hunt that thing down
Because no one else needs the sisewqll but then
I know this is none of my business but do women no longer get measured for bras? Now that it's warm, a lot of women are wearing t-shirts and it's very obvious that they have "muffin-tops" on their chests because "their cups runneth over".
We women with big breasts do struggle - the sweaty under carriage thing is awful in hot weather - literal sweaty bettys. They were maybe just letting the girls hang free.
I am literally being stalked in work by a man every day who comes to my desk as he's about to leave and insists on sitting with me for half an hour during my busiest time. I don't know what to do about it. It started off it wasn't too bad because he is blind and I love the dog. But it's now every single day and I'm the type of person who does need my own space. Even if I'm taking a call he won't leave. I really don't know what to do about it. It's actually making me angry and uncomfortable now.
It's a total invasion of my time and space and I don't know how to address it. Worst about it is he overheard one of my friends saying 'Gimme a hug' before he left the other day, which I did (because he's a very close friend) and now he wants hugs too. I gave him one the other day and there was, as Chandler Bing would say, definite cupping. His hands roamed down my back. It is seriously making me so uncomfortable.
HE'S HERE AGAIN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I CAN'T TAKE ANYMORE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! He can't see this, so I'm just going to type it anyway!
Depending on the tempo of your office, it might be a good idea to have a supervisor handle it, since technically this person is causing your productivity to suffer. If he's waiting for his ride or something, I can understand just sitting there...but if he's just "killing time" then he's also abusing your time--time that your bosses pay you for. Your supervisor might be able to come up with some kind of cover story that will re-direct him without hurting his feelings...like maybe a meeting you need to join "as soon as you're done with your present client". It doesn't have to be rude, but it can be...business. I can't imagine a boss would be okay with someone abusing the time of an employee.
This is so out of line. As Daniel Avery suggested, it's time to raise this issue to a supervisor. Not only is he disturbing your work, he's making you physically uncomfortable. You have a right to be comfortable and able to do your work. This is so wrong.
Thanks @Daniel Avery and @Jimmy Todd - I've managed to avoid him the past few days as I have another job happening at the minute which will take me through to Tuesday evening. My supervisor will be close by so I'm more protected. If he mentions anything else about hugs I'm going to say we've been seen on the security camera and my supervisor has spoken to me about him spending so much time at my desk.
That's a tactful way to handle it.
Well hilariously, before I'd had a chance to talk to him, he strolls in with the guide dog, and of course I say hi to the dog (from a distance, you aren't allowed to disturb a working dog). Bearing in mind he's in the building and not in any danger, he says to me (Oh the irony!) 'Not while he's working sweetheart'.
WHAT THE ACTUAL F??!
CUE ALANIS MORRISETTE MUSIC!!!!
I hate it that the brake of my bike didn't work, and I almost crashed into a mini-tree.
But at least I had the excuse to scream Cecil..Colbyyyyy!
OMG! This guy has walked put of a Seinfeld or Curb Your Enthusiasm episode!
Well, now yoy now how to respond when he starts talking to you while you're working and include the "sweetsweet."
This guy livese in a universe where nothing matters but him. You can't make this stuff up, can you. Smh
OK so he was back today. I was pleasant but professional. Gave the usual attention to my doggie friend.
But as they were leaving, he says 'Giz a hug' and I said, 'Sorry I'm not allowed to hug. It's been picked up on camera as inappropriate'.
YAY!!! I did it, he left quietly and now I'm rather pleased with myself. @Jimmy Todd
Congratulations! You handled that very well.
Office situations such as this one can be tricky to navigate, and you did it in a way that maintained your autonomy and let him get the message and keep his dignity.
having trouble sleeping i hate that too and if you haven't reported him than you should do so. i say ignore the dog i get that you adore it but if it means trouble not from him but from the douchbag he's helping than try your best and ignore both. good luck either way on what you decide
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