We saw Bobby die. We never saw Pam die. That's the difference. Since you brought it up though, I didn't like that they brought Bobby back after he died and then told us it was all a dream. That was stupid. But, it didn't have nearly the negative effect I would have thought it had. If you look at the ratings, Dallas only lost a very small percentage of its viewers after they brought Bobby back. Dallas dropped from a 18.8 to a 18.6 in the ratings. That's not "killing" the show; it's a barely perceptible drop. Dallas lost a lot more viewers after Bobby "died" - they went from a 21 rating in season 8 to an 18.8 for season 9. That shows how well liked the character was. Regarding the idea I had for bringing Pam back, do you really consider that lying to the audience? Lying to the audience is promising something and then not delivering. You're lying to the audience when you're ripping them off. This would have been to surprise the audience in a positive way. You can call it a "deception" if you want, but it's something they'd have done to give the audience even more value than they expected. Why would anyone have had a problem with that?